PinnedMember-onlyDon’t Be A Joy Thief. How Couples Fail To Communicate — And How To Do It Better.We can’t change our communication patterns unless we know what they are. — The researcher Shelly Gable and her colleagues at the University of California at Los Angeles studied the communication patterns of couples and how these patterns impacted the health of their relationships. They summarized what they found in a research article, What Do You Do When Things Go Right? …Psychology3 min read
PinnedKintsugi: Fix your flaws with goldThere is an art form from Japan called kintsugi. Literally, it means repairing with gold. The art form reportedly originates from 15th century Japan when the shogunate Ashigaka Yoshimasa dropped and broke a beloved tea cup. …Stress Management2 min read
Pinned7 things to stop saying to communicate more effectivelyWe all know that words have meaning. The difficulty is that, along with their everyday meaning, they also have emotional meaning. This extra emotional meaning is often used, consciously or unconsciously, especially when we are arguing. …Coping5 min read
Jul 30Member-onlyBe Careful Where You Walk, Someone Is Following Your FootstepsCaring for others means we must care for ourselves. — It is natural. When we care for others, we focus on them and not ourselves. But they look to us, to our example, and they imprint our story on themselves. We must be careful. There is a meme that goes like this. A father turns to his son and says…Mental Health2 min read
Jul 30Member-onlyBe The Person Who Breaks The CycleYour past is not your destiny. — The greatest gift that we can give to ourselves and give to others is to heal. But healing is difficult. …Mental Health2 min read
Jul 27Member-onlyYou Should Check In With Yourself Twice A DayHow we begin and how we end our day makes a difference. — Our days have a habit of blending together. Before we know it, we have more of our life behind us than ahead of us. We wonder what happened and how we could have let it slip by so carelessly. One way to help stop your life from slipping by is…Mental Health3 min read
Jul 26Member-only9 Red Flags That A Relationship Is In TroubleIf you think something is wrong, there probably is. — We have all either been in or seen unhealthy relationships. They usually violate the basic rules of trust and reciprocity. When a relationship is healthy, we have an expectation of understanding, support, and fair treatment. When it is not healthy, we feel unappreciated, manipulated, and exploited. Of course, not all…Relationships2 min read
Jul 25Member-onlyShould I Stay Or Should I Go?How to make a difficult relationship decision. — Living our own life is hard enough. But when we share our lives with others things can get complicated fast. We sometimes come to a crossroads. We end up asking ourselves whether we should stay or whether we should go. It is an incredibly difficult situation and it can be…Mental Health2 min read
Jul 23Member-onlyYour Measure Of Success In Found Within You, Nowhere ElseWe build a better life when we stop comparing ourselves to others. — Social media is an incredible tool. It connects us and brings us together. But it also encourages us to make false and dangerous comparisons. Social media has a desirability bias. Everyone shows the story they want us to see. But what we do not see are the struggles and hard…Mental Health3 min read
Jul 22Member-onlyDon’t Be So Busy Planning That You Forget To LiveWe can do both. We just need balance. — It happens to all of us, we make a plan and then something or someone comes along and messes it up. We are disappointed, angry, and frustrated. But we can usually pick up the pieces and move on. But not always. Sometimes the setbacks we suffer are intense, long-lasting, and…Mental Health2 min read
