PinnedDon’t Be A Joy Thief. How Couples Fail To Communicate — And How To Do It Better.We can’t change our communication patterns unless we know what they are. — The researcher Shelly Gable and her colleagues at the University of California at Los Angeles studied the communication patterns of couples and how these patterns impacted the health of their relationships. They summarized what they found in a research article, What Do You Do When Things Go Right? The Intrapersonal…Psychology3 min read
PinnedKintsugi: Fix your flaws with goldThere is an art form from Japan called kintsugi. Literally, it means repairing with gold. The art form reportedly originates from 15th century Japan when the shogunate Ashigaka Yoshimasa dropped and broke a beloved tea cup. The tea cup was eventually taken to a skilled Japanese ceramic artist who glued…Stress Management2 min read
Pinned7 things to stop saying to communicate more effectivelyWe all know that words have meaning. The difficulty is that, along with their everyday meaning, they also have emotional meaning. This extra emotional meaning is often used, consciously or unconsciously, especially when we are arguing. Here are seven things that we should either not say or that we should…Coping5 min read
7 hours agoHow Ted Czukor Made Me A Better Medium Writer In Less Than One MinuteThe Medium community is about writers helping writers. — I wanted to take a few minutes to say thank you to Ted Czukor (@noratedczukor), a fellow writer on Medium. Ted and I do not know each other and we have never met. The only connection we have is that we both write on Medium and that we follow each…Writing2 min read
18 hours agoWe Are Free. But We Must Use Our Freedom CarefullyWe must lift ourselves and others up. — We have the right to live our lives the way we want. We cherish this freedom and fight for it in many ways, both big and small, every day. But our freedom is not total. It has a few conditions that we should be aware of. We must live in…Mental Health3 min read
2 days agoJust Because You Are Struggling It Does Not Mean You Are FailingWe sometimes doubt ourselves when our journey is hard. — Everyone loves winning and everyone loves being a winner. We cherish and celebrate our victories with parties, pageants, and parades. But behind many victories lies a long litany of failures. The winning path can be a long one; one so long and difficult that we lose faith in ourselves. But…Mental Health3 min read
3 days agoBe Proud Of Your Progress, Even If No One Else Sees ItWe often grow when no one is noticing. — Making changes and improvements can be hard. It helps when we have people around us who support, guide, and encourage us. But sometimes we do not have them and we are left alone to fight through our demons, challenges, and struggles. When we have to do that, it is easy…Mental Health3 min read
Published in The Shortform·4 days agoThe Secret To Success Is That There Is No SecretWe all have the power to change. — We all love shortcuts, especially when they get us to what we want quicker and easier. We often look to others for advice. We are convinced the secret to success lies somewhere away from us. If we could only catch it, we would win. There are no secrets to success…Short Form1 min read
5 days agoWe All Have A Story, Don’t Let It Become Your PrisonOur narrative should guide us, not confine us. — I am a big fan of the power of narrative. When we begin to see our story and how it can unfold, it brings new insight, power, and opportunity. Unfortunately, narratives can have a downside. …Mental Health3 min read
6 days agoYour Chance To Change Is Right NowEvery day is a new day. Take advantage of its opportunity. — I have heard it many times, every day is a new day. It echoes of optimism and fresh starts. The problem is that I am not always so optimistic and stale problems often get in the way of fresh starts. It is hard to see new possibilities when you are…Mental Health4 min read
