The Only Person You Need To Compare Yourself To Is You
We will not see ourselves if we do not look.
We live in a world of endless mirrors. The world is constantly reflecting the image of ourselves and others upon us. We naturally fall into a comparison trap. We lose our real selves in the clutter. We only know ourselves secondhand by comparing ourselves to others.
But there is a way out.
The reality is this, the only person you need to compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.
We are not what others say we are.
Unfortunately, our assessment of ourselves gets tangled up with everyone else’s assessment of us. In psychology this is sometimes referred to as the looking glass self. We use others as a mirror. We learn to measure our self-worth based on everyone else’s opinion. What they reflect back to us is what we believe to be true.
This is the age-old problem of perception being reality. We learn that what others believe to be true is more important and more real than what is actually true.
The looking glass self is a perceptive trap. Others see us. We think about what they see. But we also think about what they might see. We think about what they will think about us before it even happens…
